Well I don't see it as quite so black and white I guess. I liked Cain and just thought she had some serious failings as a commander. I liked Adama (before he got so incredibly myopic in S3) and still thought he was stubborn and impatient and nondiplomatic on many occasions, that did not make him a ruthless dictator however.

I mean all of this of course is just crazy speculation. We can't know how it would've changed things without context, but I don't think Kara being commander would've necessarily been such a terrible thing at all. I imagine she would've changed and adapted and could have been really awesome at it. :) She was a career soldier pretty much.