Heh I think Adama is TERRIBLE at seeing the big picture especially after UBEX. For me, he just got more and more myopic and self-centered.

I imagine Kara would probably hate to give up flying for command, for sure. And for that alone, she probably wouldn't want it.

But canon makes a lot of things happen that we wouldn't expect. I never thought she'd muster out to live on the ground and give up flying to play house. And the whole destiny plotline...well I don't think she wanted that either. :(